Kal_1993
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Post by Kal_1993 on Jun 28, 2017 13:44:46 GMT
Yes, I am married now. I just shared my experiences. Getting married after vigorous selection process, you complaining about post-marital sex life is really disheartening. Lowering my expectations on that front(not that they were any higher). Looks like i shouldn't waste even a minute of my bachelorhood.
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Kal_1993
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Post by Kal_1993 on Jun 28, 2017 13:49:30 GMT
Another one is probably the arranged marriage factor. A lot of families have already decided to only accept or match make with a particular gothra or caste or religion or whatever you call it. Hence, the guys find it pointless to find someone and only to have them rejected later by family members. yes. it happened to me. i liked a girl of a slightly lower caste on a website. but my father insisted i marry from my own caste if it was arranged.
also, the older generation would probably adjust a bit even if sex life was crap. but the younger generation is very particular about sex. i know quite a few marriages that have broken down due to sexual incompatibility. i also know a few people who are involved in affairs.
Looks like you belong to a special breed of species in India called communist Brahmins. Rampant in both the Dravidian states and possibly Bengal. N Ram, the Hindu editor is the text book example of this.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 13:49:36 GMT
yes. it happened to me. i liked a girl of a slightly lower caste on a website. but my father insisted i marry from my own caste if it was arranged.
also, the older generation would probably adjust a bit even if sex life was crap. but the younger generation is very particular about sex. i know quite a few marriages that have broken down due to sexual incompatibility. i also know a few people who are involved in affairs.
Looks like you belong to a family of communist Brahmins. Ones of is kind when it comes to their ideology. Rampant in both the Dravidian states. N Ram, The Hindu editor is the best example. not brahmins man. more like mid-caste (or lower caste - all depends on whom you ask).
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 13:52:23 GMT
Yes, I am married now. I just shared my experiences. Getting married after vigorous selection process, you complaining about post-marital sex life is really disheartening. Lowering my expectations on that front(not that they were any higher). Looks like i shouldn't waste even a minute of my bachelorhood. well, dont be disheartened. like i said, it takes time for things to fall in place in an arranged marriage. its not genuine passion that you feel at the beginning of a love affair. but things can work out.
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 14:04:50 GMT
Yes, I am married now. I just shared my experiences. Getting married after vigorous selection process, you complaining about post-marital sex life is really disheartening. Lowering my expectations on that front(not that they were any higher). Looks like i shouldn't waste even a minute of my bachelorhood. You shouldn't waste your bachelorhood. The sex life isn't bad but it isn't that good either. I know people who had love marriage yet they stray after marriage to look for replacement sex. I guess you just get bored doing with the same person. If you partner is understanding and you guys click emotionally, the bad sex part wouldn't arise.
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 14:11:59 GMT
Another one is probably the arranged marriage factor. A lot of families have already decided to only accept or match make with a particular gothra or caste or religion or whatever you call it. Hence, the guys find it pointless to find someone and only to have them rejected later by family members. yes. it happened to me. i liked a girl of a slightly lower caste on a website. but my father insisted i marry from my own caste if it was arranged.
also, the older generation would probably adjust a bit even if sex life was crap. but the younger generation is very particular about sex. i know quite a few marriages that have broken down due to sexual incompatibility. i also know a few people who are involved in affairs.
There you go, many Indians have given up of looking for a partner due to this. I had similar issues too. Affairs are so common now, lately I am seeing Indian women doing it too.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 14:21:16 GMT
yes. it happened to me. i liked a girl of a slightly lower caste on a website. but my father insisted i marry from my own caste if it was arranged.
also, the older generation would probably adjust a bit even if sex life was crap. but the younger generation is very particular about sex. i know quite a few marriages that have broken down due to sexual incompatibility. i also know a few people who are involved in affairs.
There you go, many Indians have given up of looking for a partner due to this. I had similar issues too. Affairs are so common now, lately I am seeing Indian women doing it too. yes, loads of them.
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Kal_1993
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Post by Kal_1993 on Jun 28, 2017 17:18:51 GMT
Getting married after vigorous selection process, you complaining about post-marital sex life is really disheartening. Lowering my expectations on that front(not that they were any higher). Looks like i shouldn't waste even a minute of my bachelorhood. You shouldn't waste your bachelorhood. The sex life isn't bad but it isn't that good either. I know people who had love marriage yet they stray after marriage to look for replacement sex. I guess you just get bored doing with the same person. If you partner is understanding and you guys click emotionally, the bad sex part wouldn't arise. This reminds me of one of the guys in college, who is 5 years older than most of our batchmates and got married during the 2nd year of college. He used to advise us (rather sadly) to have all the fun before marriage because it's too much to expect even a blowjob from Indian. Lol!
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Post by moviemaniac22 on Jun 30, 2017 19:11:57 GMT
I have posted a pic of myself 2 days ago. I'm a little distant in it. I sent messages to 3 users. No reply yet. What do I do know? Change vegetarian to non - veg or lie about my age.
I'm gonna quit this soon
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