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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2017 23:22:14 GMT
This might sound stupid ok: I have to go to someones house and eat some food, this relative is 90 or 89 I don't remember. Last time I went this person made us all pray before eating, I don't believe in that stuff but I did it anyway cuz I was forced, well not forced but sor t of. Do you think it's rude if I tell them I don't want to pray next time? lol Is that rude to tell a 90 year old that I can't pray cuz I don't believe in it, or should I just pray anyway, and then hate myself afterwards. lol. Seriously though. I feel like I 'm somewhere between a rock and a hard place, no matter what I do in this situation is wrong. I'm saying if you have been in a similar situation what did you do. Or what would you do?
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Post by theauxphou on Dec 28, 2017 23:30:37 GMT
Just pray for this person's death.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2017 23:31:41 GMT
Just pray for this person's death. Yea? I could pray that trump gets impeached, cuz then Pence would be even worse. So that'd be great. |
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Post by theauxphou on Dec 29, 2017 0:11:46 GMT
Yea? I could pray that trump gets impeached, cuz then Pence would be even worse. So that'd be great.
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Post by politicidal on Dec 29, 2017 2:12:44 GMT
Just go with the flow and not cause a ruckus. If they're that old, it sounds like you won't be doing it for longer anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 3:35:50 GMT
everyone says go with the flow? ok.
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Post by CoolJGS☺ on Dec 29, 2017 3:37:39 GMT
Geez, quit thinking about being a goober and pray with the old lady or at least simply shut up.
It's a few seconds and then you have the 364.8999999 days to not worry about it again.
You don't want to be that guy
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Post by goz on Dec 29, 2017 4:08:51 GMT
I was an atheist in a church school. I am an expert at thinking about something else more fun when I close my eyes and bend my head. Any fool can do it!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 4:19:28 GMT
Geez, quit thinking about being a goober and pray with the old lady or at least simply shut up. It's a few seconds and then you have the 364.8999999 days to not worry about it again. You don't want to be that guy what do you mean shut up? You mean I should shut up about what? I'm curious as to what you mean.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Dec 29, 2017 5:17:21 GMT
This might sound stupid ok: I have to go to someones house and eat some food, this relative is 90 or 89 I don't remember. Last time I went this person made us all pray before eating, I don't believe in that stuff but I did it anyway cuz I was forced, well not forced but sor t of. Do you think it's rude if I tell them I don't want to pray next time? lol Is that rude to tell a 90 year old that I can't pray cuz I don't believe in it, or should I just pray anyway, and then hate myself afterwards. lol. Seriously though. I feel like I 'm somewhere between a rock and a hard place, no matter what I do in this situation is wrong. I'm saying if you have been in a similar situation what did you do. Or what would you do?
The old testament if filled with holes so I don't belive any of it. God don't exist for me. Clarification needed - are you expected to pray out loud with the others or out loud by yourself? If not, then just stay silent with your head bowed and eyes closed. You can do an internal eye roll, think about anything but prayer, count silently to see how long the prayer lasts... But if your out-loud participation is required, that's another matter. If everyone else is praying out loud, just don't speak. If you are required to pray out loud by yourself, as in 'what do you pray for?' just say "world peace". Or, whirled peas.  My mother is 94, a lifelong Christian, but when it is just her and me, there is no praying. I don't know if she realizes that I am an atheist, but she knows that 'I have problems with organized religion' and I haven't been to church since my father's funeral in 2004. If this is not a close relative, just divert. It's not worth making an issue of it. |
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Post by MooseNugget on Dec 29, 2017 6:57:43 GMT
When someone prays at a dinner I'm at it's one person. I don't close my eyes and tilt my head down. What I do is check out what everyone else is doing. Sometimes my Dad will be doing what I'm doing. Why don't you just do that instead?
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Post by CoolJGS☺ on Dec 29, 2017 13:03:35 GMT
Geez, quit thinking about being a goober and pray with the old lady or at least simply shut up. It's a few seconds and then you have the 364.8999999 days to not worry about it again. You don't want to be that guy what do you mean shut up? You mean I should shut up about what? I'm curious as to what you mean.
I mean if you are so opposed to praying, which I get since it might be dishonest, then simply be quiet while old lady prays. The tradition isn't about you so don't bother making it about you. |
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Post by OldSamVimes on Dec 29, 2017 13:25:34 GMT
As long as they're not praying for over 10 minutes, be a man and gut it out.
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Post by cupcakes on Dec 29, 2017 13:42:51 GMT
tpfkar As it's coming to a close and everybody's raising their heads, audibly intone "May Xenu be with you."
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Dec 29, 2017 16:19:14 GMT
This might sound stupid ok: I have to go to someones house and eat some food, this relative is 90 or 89 I don't remember. Last time I went this person made us all pray before eating, I don't believe in that stuff but I did it anyway cuz I was forced, well not forced but sor t of. Do you think it's rude if I tell them I don't want to pray next time? lol Is that rude to tell a 90 year old that I can't pray cuz I don't believe in it, or should I just pray anyway, and then hate myself afterwards. lol. Seriously though. I feel like I 'm somewhere between a rock and a hard place, no matter what I do in this situation is wrong. I'm saying if you have been in a similar situation what did you do. Or what would you do?
The old testament if filled with holes so I don't belive any of it. God don't exist for me. Clarification needed - are you expected to pray out loud with the others or out loud by yourself? If not, then just stay silent with your head bowed and eyes closed. You can do an internal eye roll, think about anything but prayer, count silently to see how long the prayer lasts... But if your out-loud participation is required, that's another matter. If everyone else is praying out loud, just don't speak. If you are required to pray out loud by yourself, as in 'what do you pray for?' just say "world peace". Or, whirled peas. My mother is 94, a lifelong Christian, but when it is just her and me, there is no praying. I don't know if she realizes that I am an atheist, but she knows that 'I have problems with organized religion' and I haven't been to church since my father's funeral in 2004. If this is not a close relative, just divert. It's not worth making an issue of it. I wanted to quote myself rather than just edit - I am just as irritated by having to go along as you are. But if I voiced my atheism and irritation at having to 'go along', it would start an exchange as endless and divisive as any thread on this board. And that would ruin your dinner. |
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Post by kls on Dec 29, 2017 16:24:13 GMT
The older person isn't looking for you to say a prayer yourself-correct? If so what's the harm is sitting quietly for a minute while another person prays?
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Post by cupcakes on Dec 29, 2017 16:24:57 GMT
tpfkar I wanted to quote myself rather than just edit - I am just as irritated by having to go along as you are. But if I voiced my atheism and irritation at having to 'go along', it would start an exchange as endless and divisive as any thread on this board. And that would ruin your dinner. Have fun with it! Smile while you buck 'em.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Dec 29, 2017 16:53:24 GMT
Well, that explains a lot.
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Post by cupcakes on Dec 29, 2017 16:59:25 GMT
tpfkar Well, that explains a lot. Or, turn into a nasty person and constantly wail like a stuck buffalo. 
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