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Post by sugarbiscuits on Jan 20, 2018 12:19:59 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline?
do you find it easy or difficult making friends?
Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online,
maybe you've done so already or know those who have?
what do you think about social rejection?
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Post by Roberto on Jan 20, 2018 13:02:17 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline? I don't know, I haven't counted. Maybe a few in the real world, and a bunch in the online world. I don't know, I don't really try to make any, I just let it happen naturally. Sure, if they were cool and I was sure they weren't a weirdo psycho killer. Nope. It's a good way of letting you know who the A-holes are. If someone rejects you, then you now know they aren't a good person and should not be someone you should hang out with anyway. |
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Post by Terrapin Station on Jan 20, 2018 13:16:03 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline? do you find it easy or difficult making friends? Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online, maybe you've done so already or know those who have? what do you think about social rejection? Online friends, meaning people I only know online but whom I'd consider some sort of friend--maybe two, although I haven't talked much to either one in awhile. I was friendlier with them when the IMDb boards were active. I met both there. It seems to me that people are mostly adversarial online, and otherwise, my personality doesn't seem to go over well online for some reason. Offline friends? Tens of them. I wouldn't know how to count them. People tend to be friends of mine for life (I still have a ton of friends from high school for example--we're all in our 50s now). And I regularly make new friends too. Not everyone is the same "level" of friend, of course--you're not going to be just as close with everyone, spend just as much time with everyone, etc. The way people react to me offline is completely different than the way they react ( or refrain from acting) online. I don't know if the difference offline is because of who I am/what I do, or something about the way I look or carry myself re body language, or if some part of my personality doesn't come through well on social media (even though I'm just the same online as offline), or if it's simply that different sorts of people tend to be interacting on message boards like this as opposed to the sorts of people that are friendly with me "in real life," or if it's that many folks have different behavior online than offline, or some combo of the above. I would definitely meet people I've known online in person--whether they've been friendly or not. In fact I've often been more curious to meet people in person who were complete jerks to me, who have really difficult personalities online, etc. I've really wanted to see what some of those people are like in person. But sure, I'd meet up with people who are friendly with me, too. Re rejection, it's going to happen no matter what you do. You can't get hung up on it. Some people are not going to like you. But you can't give up. There are people who'll like you, too. |
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Post by Sulla on Jan 20, 2018 15:32:45 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline?
Offline? Six. Four close and two moderately close. I have lots of friendly acquaintances, but we don't spend time together. Unfortunately, there are lots of people in this world who are not worth being close friends with.
Online? Over the years probably dozens of people with whom I've been friendly enough to share some personal information. Due to the fact that we live far away, over time many of them drift away.
do you find it easy or difficult making friends?
It's not difficult, but I've learned to be selective. Some people are not beneficial to your well-being.
Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online,
maybe you've done so already or know those who have?
I met with a total of 11 posters from the IMDb RFS board. 10 of those were during three dinners in NYC in 2006-2008. One was a romantic relationship. We all previously knew each other online for a couple of years before meeting. And I'm not alone. I knew others on the IMDb who had meetings in real life. Two of them married each other.
what do you think about social rejection?
I'm not sure what the context here is. But generally, I think many people put too much emphasis on social acceptance/rejection. There are billions of people on this planet. If someone doesn't like you, don't waste your time. Just move on.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2018 15:45:13 GMT
I will try to answer a line at a time.
1. On and offline, countless
2. Easy
3. Sorry, but I don't understand the question.
4. Same as above
5. I have lived long enough to know how to avoid it.
I expect to hear from B.O. or alfscumney right away.
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Post by sugarbiscuits on Jan 20, 2018 16:55:34 GMT
I will try to answer a line at a time. 1. On and offline, countless 2. Easy 3. Sorry, but I don't understand the question. 4. Same as above 5. I have lived long enough to know how to avoid it. I expect to hear from B.O. or alfscumney right away. I know of some people from TV Tome and Rage who met offline a few times. |
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Post by sugarbiscuits on Jan 20, 2018 16:58:05 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline? do you find it easy or difficult making friends? Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online, maybe you've done so already or know those who have? what do you think about social rejection? Online friends, meaning people I only know online but whom I'd consider some sort of friend--maybe two, although I haven't talked much to either one in awhile. I was friendlier with them when the IMDb boards were active. I met both there. It seems to me that people are mostly adversarial online, and otherwise, my personality doesn't seem to go over well online for some reason. Offline friends? Tens of them. I wouldn't know how to count them. People tend to be friends of mine for life (I still have a ton of friends from high school for example--we're all in our 50s now). And I regularly make new friends too. Not everyone is the same "level" of friend, of course--you're not going to be just as close with everyone, spend just as much time with everyone, etc. The way people react to me offline is completely different than the way they react ( or refrain from acting) online. I don't know if the difference offline is because of who I am/what I do, or something about the way I look or carry myself re body language, or if some part of my personality doesn't come through well on social media (even though I'm just the same online as offline), or if it's simply that different sorts of people tend to be interacting on message boards like this as opposed to the sorts of people that are friendly with me "in real life," or if it's that many folks have different behavior online than offline, or some combo of the above. I would definitely meet people I've known online in person--whether they've been friendly or not. In fact I've often been more curious to meet people in person who were complete jerks to me, who have really difficult personalities online, etc. I've really wanted to see what some of those people are like in person. But sure, I'd meet up with people who are friendly with me, too. Re rejection, it's going to happen no matter what you do. You can't get hung up on it. Some people are not going to like you. But you can't give up. There are people who'll like you, too. I find it funny some people who have chatted with me online I don't believe they would do so offline. I have been rejected by people. I feel stupid talking to them just to be rejected. It would be interesting to meet some people who live nearby. Couldn't go too far it would cost too much. America would be expensive. Anywhere in Great Britain isn't a problem.
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Post by sugarbiscuits on Jan 20, 2018 16:59:48 GMT
how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline?
Offline? Six. Four close and two moderately close. I have lots of friendly acquaintances, but we don't spend time together. Unfortunately, there are lots of people in this world who are not worth being close friends with.
Online? Over the years probably dozens of people with whom I've been friendly enough to share some personal information. Due to the fact that we live far away, over time many of them drift away.
do you find it easy or difficult making friends?
It's not difficult, but I've learned to be selective. Some people are not beneficial to your well-being.
Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online,
maybe you've done so already or know those who have?
I met with a total of 11 posters from the IMDb RFS board. 10 of those were during three dinners in NYC in 2006-2008. One was a romantic relationship. We all previously knew each other online for a couple of years before meeting. And I'm not alone. I knew others on the IMDb who had meetings in real life. Two of them married each other.
what do you think about social rejection?
I'm not sure what the context here is. But generally, I think many people put too much emphasis on social acceptance/rejection. There are billions of people on this planet. If someone doesn't like you, don't waste your time. Just move on.
I know of people from TV Tome and Rage who met offline. I haven't done so, but it would be interesting to do so. I get rejected a lot, school college and work. I don't know if maybe it's the way I come across. I find it easier to talk to people who will chat with me voluntarily.
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Post by Nora on Feb 11, 2018 3:33:28 GMT
1. how many friends do you consider yourself to have online and offline? about 10 good friends offline, zero online friends currently. 2. do you find it easy or difficult making friends? I find it easy to communicate with people, including complete strangers, in pretty much any setting, but find it hard (as in rare) that i really connect with someone. 3. Would anyone here ever meet someone you know from online - totally. i was actually going to suggest if anyone from here is from NYC or around here to meet. I have had met online people offline before and a few of them are now some of those 10 that i consider close friends. 4. maybe you've done so already or know those who have? have done it many times, have only positive experience. 5. what do you think about social rejection? not a fan  but who is? |
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Post by deembastille on Feb 11, 2018 3:39:41 GMT
i find it very easy to make friends. but then i find them to be flakey and backstabbing so that's that.
i am always socially rejected. i get the point, you don't want to hear what i have to say because deep down you know it's true and are too embarrassed to admit i have a point. i keep my mouth shut and stay in the corner. [then get rated negatively for not speaking up more -- go figure!]
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but who is?