Deleted
Deleted Member
@Deleted
Posts: 0
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2018 19:20:42 GMT
My kids are 1.5 and 3.5 years old, so I'm new at this, but my answers:
Waaaaaaaaay harder.
In some ways better, in some ways worse, overall score = draw
Definitely happier because...
....if you're doing it right, it starts making you a better person, and that, feeds right back into the "happier" and "better" categories.
|
|
|
|
Post by CoolJGS☺ on Feb 13, 2018 19:44:58 GMT
Harder.
however, it going downhill is really on the basis of being ignorant about what it takes to raise a kid.
If anything, the flaw is thinking that one kid somehow has the ability to be loved more than multiple kids since love isn't something that can be quantified.
So anticipation followed by facing reality, followed by living reality which is kinda the status quo with or without kids.
Of course, it may be better to have one kid if all one can afford is one kid.
|
|
|
|
Post by gadreel on Feb 13, 2018 19:49:16 GMT
Harder, you have a whole life to look after, not to mention the concern about things that are out of your hands.
Children are difficult and scary.
But they are fucking amazing and the reward outweighs the hassle by a country mile.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
@Deleted
Posts: 0
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2018 20:09:52 GMT
Sounds like children make your life harder. So why do so many people want/have children? Why would someone want a harder, more stressful life? Same reason Vince Vaughn's character in Couples Retreat gives to support his argument for why people should work on their marriage: Because you don't want to end up eating at Applebees alone. |
|
|
|
Post by Marv on Feb 13, 2018 20:27:54 GMT
I would assume harder. Your taking on more responsibilities all around and accounting for at least another persons safety and well being.
As an adult with no kids I can tell you my life is pretty easy.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
@Deleted
Posts: 0
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2018 20:46:23 GMT
Same reason Vince Vaughn's character in Couples Retreat gives to support his argument for why people should work on their marriage: Because you don't want to end up eating at Applebees alone. Lol that movie is funny. My brother told me something similar when I asked him why he was trying to have a kid. He said he didn't want to die alone. But sadly,...  I tend to focus more on the not wanting to live alone part than the not wanting to die alone part.  Of course, there is much more to it than a want or need for companionship. To be perfectly honest, I'm happy to be part of a society (whether that be friends, family or co-workers), but I'm just as happy to be alone. No, many reasons went into the decision and I can emphatically say in retrospect that i made the right call. I do miss the six-vacations-a-year freedom of our childless marriage, but I wouldn't trade them for the daily sound of my wife's voice yelling "Go get him, boys!" and the subsequent squeals and giggles that waft outside into the garage as I'm unlocking the back door after a day's work. |
|
|
|
Post by Isapop on Feb 13, 2018 20:48:33 GMT
|
|
|
|
Post by Cinemachinery on Feb 13, 2018 20:56:32 GMT
Huh. Mine's five and she makes life an absolute joy. But we're lucky - she didn't need sleep training, she's incredibly good-natured, cooperative, etc. Some people just roll up little hellions.
That said, some things are going to be harder since you have to fit their little lives into your already busy schedule. But, I mean... having to run the little bundle around to classes and camps and what not is SO worth the smiles she brings.
|
|
|
|
Post by Cinemachinery on Feb 13, 2018 20:57:30 GMT
Sounds like children make your life harder. So why do so many people want/have children? Why would someone want a harder, more stressful life? The payoff. |
|
|
|
Post by CoolJGS☺ on Feb 13, 2018 21:13:52 GMT
I would also add that just because something is harder does not mean that life is less enjoyable after one gets the hang of it.
My life is both more difficult and much happier as a result of having two kids.
|
|
|
|
Post by CoolJGS☺ on Feb 13, 2018 22:09:38 GMT
I would also add that just because something is harder does not mean that life is less enjoyable after one gets the hang of it. My life is both more difficult and much happier as a result of having two kids. Agreed. But I'd add that just because something has moments that are rewarding, does not automatically mean it's "worth it". My job has moments that are rewarding, but I'd still rather be at home watching a movie. I think there are a lot of people with children that are happy. But I suspect that a lot of people with children wish they could go back to a time when their lives were simpler and less stressful. Sometimes I wonder if people think they have to have children, or that they're supposed to. I just can;t imagine wanting to add responsibility and stress to my life. But I also understand we all want different things. That goes back to expectations. once reality sets in then it becomes like any aspect of life with both highs and lows akthough I thin most people would be OK with work if they controlled their own destiny regarding it rather than slaving for others. Still most find good in work simply by the fact that they get paid which allows them to have a TV to relax in front of. Some may think they have an obligation to have children to carry a family line or from pressure of their parents, but overall I am of the opinion that most people actually want to have kids that mingles in with the pressure to have them. I say this but I am perfectly content with my kids never having kids, so i don't quite fit the profile of carrying the family line. The family tree can end with them although I doubt that will happen, only that my wife and I won't be the ones pushing for it. |
|
|
|
Post by gadreel on Feb 13, 2018 22:18:55 GMT
Huh. Mine's five and she makes life an absolute joy. But we're lucky - she didn't need sleep training, she's incredibly good-natured, cooperative, etc. Some people just roll up little hellions. That said, some things are going to be harder since you have to fit their little lives into your already busy schedule. But, I mean... having to run the little bundle around to classes and camps and what not is SO worth the smiles she brings. Mine is five too, and you are bang on. Only good thing I got out of my marriage. |
|
|
|
Post by Vegas on Feb 13, 2018 22:27:40 GMT
Sounds like children make your life harder. So why do so many people want/have children? Why would someone want a harder, more stressful life? Meh. It's not that hard or stressful... ya fuck up and lose one... Ya just make another.  |
|
|
|
Post by goz on Feb 14, 2018 1:43:40 GMT
I can't imagine never having had kids, I would have been a miserable old git.
Having said that, it is NOT for everyone and you have to REALLY want it and see the positives because for some people the negatives are untenable and they are better off not being parents.
I adore my three, had them young and had 8 pregnancies to get three live healthy children so I REALLY wanted them...and now I am a young grandmother and it GETS BETTER!
There are too many benefits to count butt the funny cute loving things the grandchildren do and say, naturally is beyond price. It is MOTH's birthday today and a five year old grandson told his other grandma that it was Papa's birthday today, so would she help him ring?
Another grandchild, also five ( we had three five year olds born within three weeks) was watching the Winter Olympics in London and after watching the figure skating for the first time for a while said to her mother...Wow, that's great, I could do that... it looks easy, which she shortly after qualified by saying' If Mummy held my hand!"
My daughter and I were laughing about how Miss L at the 2032 Winter Olympics would win a gold medal with doing perfect triple lutzs followed by triple camel toes and spins all the whilst holding Mummy's hand. Another was visiting a kiddy farm with all the animals, having just had a haircut because her hair was in her eyes. Upon seeing a recently shorn sheep, she commented..."He has had his fringe (bangs) cut!"
I could go on and on and it wouldn't touch the joy that kids and grandkids have brought to our lives, because we love it and wanted it so much. It is everything and more that we had hoped.
|
|
