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Post by Nicko's Nose on Oct 28, 2018 22:01:28 GMT
Oy fucking vey. Dude was feeling depressed, posts a vulnerable thread about it and gets pushed into deleting. If you're not helping you're hurting. I hope he comes back. Yeah. Personally I like him. |
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Post by ant-mac on Oct 28, 2018 22:10:31 GMT
Oy fucking vey. Dude was feeling depressed, posts a vulnerable thread about it, and gets pushed into deleting. If you're not helping you're hurting. I hope he comes back. That's possible, but it's also possible that he's just looking for attention and sympathy. It's just so difficult to tell in this day and age, especially on the internet.
However, as I indicated in my original response to him on this thread, "Only you can be the judge of that." By which I mean he is responsible for his own self-image and how he feels about himself. He's also responsible for his own actions, such as deleting his own account.
We all are.
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 28, 2018 22:15:05 GMT
What kind of response do you suppose he was looking for?
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Post by ant-mac on Oct 28, 2018 22:17:19 GMT
What kind of response do you suppose he was looking for? Sympathetic? 
Who knows?
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Post by Nalkarj on Oct 28, 2018 22:48:21 GMT
I know that @nxnwrocks will be back, so I don’t mind a bit if he sees this, but I’d just like to record a few observations. I think (I can’t be sure) that he and I met in talking about old mysteries, which we both like. He was fine and pleasant and chipper, and we didn’t always agree on everything but got a good dialogue going. Then suddenly he completely changed. He became nasty, belligerent, vituperative, and mocking. The same transformation had happened with another since-deleted poster, @gottaluvafriend, who also liked classic mysteries. (Now I’m wondering if they’re the same person.) He would ask sarcastic rhetorical questions to just about everyone. Then he changed back. He wrote me a lot of PMs about authors, mystery and non-mystery, asking for my opinions. I responded to a few of them, though not all. Then the Worthington fiasco happened as Bat described it. Whole thread here. He didn’t get on with Bat. And then he started up with the sarcasm and sardonicism again, especially in posting on the Classics board. As london777 there accurately noted, he [London] had lost the title of most curmudgeonly poster to nxnwrocks—which, if you know London, was quite an accomplishment. But many of nxnw’s posts were not even curmudgeonly, they were just mean. He often went back and forth between the nice mood and the mean mood, depending on the day. He grew angrier and angrier at Bat and then at me when I would defend Bat. He found a “place where we hang out,” as Bat called it, and spammed it up with message after message, when he’d never posted there before. The goal was obviously to annoy Bat and me. Then, recently, he switched to woe-is-me threads, which are in their way even more annoying. He became convinced that few people liked him. I don’t know if he has genuine psychiatric problems that affected his postings here. That’s above my pay-grade. But it was the going back and forth that seemed very unusual, annoying, and troubling. TL;DR (is that the right initialism?): He told me “sorry” for being nasty several times. (The sorries got annoying and cloying; they reminded me of Hayden Christensen’s Stephen Glass.) He started right back up with being nasty after every sorry. I forgave him every time; I’d still forgive him. But he kept going back to his old ways, for no real reason, unfortunately. |
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Post by MCDemuth on Oct 28, 2018 23:30:37 GMT
Perhaps...
If nxnwrocks didn't have temper tantrums, and delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him...
His friends could actually contact him at those accounts on a regular basis.
Just something to think about.
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Post by llanwydd on Oct 28, 2018 23:38:37 GMT
Perhaps...If nxnwrocks didn't have temper tantrums, and delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him... His friends could actually contact him at those accounts on a regular basis. Just something to think about. Interesting remark. Did he delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him? |
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Post by Nicko's Nose on Oct 28, 2018 23:44:34 GMT
Perhaps...If nxnwrocks didn't have temper tantrums, and delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him... His friends could actually contact him at those accounts on a regular basis. Just something to think about. Interesting remark. Did he delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him? I doubt it. Since he had thousands of posts on that account. |
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Post by Fox in the Snow on Oct 28, 2018 23:48:02 GMT
I found him a generally nice poster, with a genuine love of film and music. His sometime over-activity which I'm sure for the most part was done with the best of intentions may have done him more harm than good. Hope he'll be back. I Don't recall him ever deleting his account before.
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Post by MCDemuth on Oct 28, 2018 23:52:21 GMT
Perhaps...If nxnwrocks didn't have temper tantrums, and delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him... His friends could actually contact him at those accounts on a regular basis. Just something to think about. Interesting remark. Did he delete his accounts every time someone didn't agree with him? I don't know... But, As usual, I see we have another member who completely missed the hypothetical point of a discussion, and took the post too seriously... I'm not friends with nxnwrocks, but if I were, the only place I know of to contact him, WAS here... And now I can't. I makes one wonder, if his friends have the same trouble... |
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Post by Fox in the Snow on Oct 29, 2018 2:23:46 GMT
Since you seem like external validation of your worth is something you crave (and i get it) here is a suggestion: tell me your first name or initial or pick a favorite animal or something that would somehow feel personal to you, and I will put a reference to it in my show that I am shooting currently if you want. that way there will be a reference to you in something someone created and i think that could make you help stop feeling like nonentity since in a way it will showcase your existence. what do you think? Can anyone take you up on that offer. In return I can name a character "Nora" in one of my screenplays. Can't guarantee it'll ever see the lighght of day though. |
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 29, 2018 3:06:09 GMT
I know that @nxnwrocks will be back, so I don’t mind a bit if he sees this, but I’d just like to record a few observations. I think (I can’t be sure) that he and I met in talking about old mysteries, which we both like. He was fine and pleasant and chipper, and we didn’t always agree on everything but got a good dialogue going. Then suddenly he completely changed. He became nasty, belligerent, vituperative, and mocking. The same transformation had happened with another since-deleted poster, @gottaluvafriend, who also liked classic mysteries. (Now I’m wondering if they’re the same person.) He would ask sarcastic rhetorical questions to just about everyone. Then he changed back. He wrote me a lot of PMs about authors, mystery and non-mystery, asking for my opinions. I responded to a few of them, though not all. Then the Worthington fiasco happened as Bat described it. Whole thread here. He didn’t get on with Bat. And then he started up with the sarcasm and sardonicism again, especially in posting on the Classics board. As london777 there accurately noted, he [London] had lost the title of most curmudgeonly poster to nxnwrocks—which, if you know London, was quite an accomplishment. But many of nxnw’s posts were not even curmudgeonly, they were just mean. He often went back and forth between the nice mood and the mean mood, depending on the day. He grew angrier and angrier at Bat and then at me when I would defend Bat. He found a “place where we hang out,” as Bat called it, and spammed it up with message after message, when he’d never posted there before. The goal was obviously to annoy Bat and me. Then, recently, he switched to woe-is-me threads, which are in their way even more annoying. He became convinced that few people liked him. I don’t know if he has genuine psychiatric problems that affected his postings here. That’s above my pay-grade. But it was the going back and forth that seemed very unusual, annoying, and troubling. TL;DR (is that the right initialism?): He told me “sorry” for being nasty several times. (The sorries got annoying and cloying; they reminded me of Hayden Christensen’s Stephen Glass.) He started right back up with being nasty after every sorry. I forgave him every time; I’d still forgive him. But he kept going back to his old ways, for no real reason, unfortunately. Wasn't @gottaluvafriend the guy with an x-wing (or some spaceship) avatar?
If so, he found the politics board too hard and went to the other site, where some others went too. He might have been a good guy but his factual vs personal attacks post ratio on the politics board didn't make him a popular guy. He was no @MrSinister but too many ad hominem and too little support for his stuff made him quit that board. I can't tell you why he preferred to leave the site entirely instead of sticking to other boards though.
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Post by Nalkarj on Oct 29, 2018 3:10:55 GMT
Wasn't @gottaluvafriend the guy with an x-wing (or some spaceship) avatar? If so, he found the politics board too hard and went to the other site, where some others went too. He might have been a good guy but his factual vs personal attacks post ratio on the politics board didn't make him a popular guy. He was no @MrSinister but too many ad hominem and too little support for his stuff made him quit that board. I can't tell you why he preferred to leave the site entirely instead of sticking to other boards though. I don’t think so… I remember his avatar being a man (maybe himself?) sitting at a keyboard. |
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Post by Catman on Oct 29, 2018 3:21:11 GMT
Wasn't @gottaluvafriend the guy with an x-wing (or some spaceship) avatar? If so, he found the politics board too hard and went to the other site, where some others went too. He might have been a good guy but his factual vs personal attacks post ratio on the politics board didn't make him a popular guy. He was no @MrSinister but too many ad hominem and too little support for his stuff made him quit that board. I can't tell you why he preferred to leave the site entirely instead of sticking to other boards though. I don’t think so… I remember his avatar being a man (maybe himself?) sitting at a keyboard. Is this the guy who kept getting all pissy on the Baker's Dozen board? |
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Post by Nalkarj on Oct 29, 2018 3:23:15 GMT
Could be, Catman—I don’t play Baker’s Dozen. He would get pissy about other stuff, though, so it sounds right. |
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 29, 2018 3:33:41 GMT
I don’t think so… I remember his avatar being a man (maybe himself?) sitting at a keyboard. Is this the guy who kept getting all pissy on the Baker's Dozen board? I think so. |
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Post by Aj_June on Oct 29, 2018 4:11:44 GMT
I don’t think so… I remember his avatar being a man (maybe himself?) sitting at a keyboard. Is this the guy who kept getting all pissy on the Baker's Dozen board? Exactly right. He would break the rules of the game and if nobody replied to his posts (which were in incorrect order) he would sulk like a child and accuse people of being part of clique . He often used bad language for people who politely requested him to play within the rules. One day I asked him to play within the rules and he messaged me asking me to delete his profile. I refused to delete his profile as it would give him the sense of a martyr and he could then go on another board and complain about this board. Which he eventually did anyway. As for the OP of this thread- I hope he returns. I like his contribution to sports board and some of his comments are interesting. I do like to say him that I like his posts and definitely consider him more than "nobody". nxnwrocks - Remember there are some people who like you and would be happy to have you back here. |
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Post by llanwydd on Oct 29, 2018 5:50:01 GMT
I know that @nxnwrocks will be back, so I don’t mind a bit if he sees this, but I’d just like to record a few observations. I think (I can’t be sure) that he and I met in talking about old mysteries, which we both like. He was fine and pleasant and chipper, and we didn’t always agree on everything but got a good dialogue going. Then suddenly he completely changed. He became nasty, belligerent, vituperative, and mocking. The same transformation had happened with another since-deleted poster, @gottaluvafriend, who also liked classic mysteries. (Now I’m wondering if they’re the same person.) He would ask sarcastic rhetorical questions to just about everyone. Then he changed back. He wrote me a lot of PMs about authors, mystery and non-mystery, asking for my opinions. I responded to a few of them, though not all. Then the Worthington fiasco happened as Bat described it. Whole thread here. He didn’t get on with Bat. And then he started up with the sarcasm and sardonicism again, especially in posting on the Classics board. As london777 there accurately noted, he [London] had lost the title of most curmudgeonly poster to nxnwrocks—which, if you know London, was quite an accomplishment. But many of nxnw’s posts were not even curmudgeonly, they were just mean. He often went back and forth between the nice mood and the mean mood, depending on the day. He grew angrier and angrier at Bat and then at me when I would defend Bat. He found a “place where we hang out,” as Bat called it, and spammed it up with message after message, when he’d never posted there before. The goal was obviously to annoy Bat and me. Then, recently, he switched to woe-is-me threads, which are in their way even more annoying. He became convinced that few people liked him. I don’t know if he has genuine psychiatric problems that affected his postings here. That’s above my pay-grade. But it was the going back and forth that seemed very unusual, annoying, and troubling. TL;DR (is that the right initialism?): He told me “sorry” for being nasty several times. (The sorries got annoying and cloying; they reminded me of Hayden Christensen’s Stephen Glass.) He started right back up with being nasty after every sorry. I forgave him every time; I’d still forgive him. But he kept going back to his old ways, for no real reason, unfortunately. I skimmed that thread. Hardly seems like a fiasco at all. And certainly nothing for Bat to get all bent out of shape about. Can you provide examples of where he was mean and nasty? B.O. gets plenty bent out of shape over nothing. The most aggressive bullying ever done on these boards has been done by him with his sidekick, Salzmank "like"ing every one of his insults, usually against a fellow poster of ours named snsurone who has done absolutely nothing to deserve it. And that remark about gottaluvafriend being the same person as nxnwrocks is absolutely batshit crazy. For one thing, gottaluvafriend would never have spoken a kind word to B.O. and would never dealt with his harassment with anything but venomous insults (he hated me just as much, which nxnwrocks did not) and would never have backed down. For another thing, I followed gottaluvafriend after he self deleted and found him posting on two other film sites. He had radical political and religious views that were absolutely inconsistent with anything nxnwrocks ever said. B.O. and Sally are sick people. |
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Post by Aj_June on Oct 29, 2018 7:21:01 GMT
I skimmed that thread. Hardly seems like a fiasco at all. And certainly nothing for Bat to get all bent out of shape about. Can you provide examples of where he was mean and nasty? B.O. gets plenty bent out of shape over nothing. The most aggressive bullying ever done on these boards has been done by him with his sidekick, Salzmank "like"ing every one of his insults, usually against a fellow poster of ours named snsurone who has done absolutely nothing to deserve it. And that remark about gottaluvafriend being the same person as nxnwrocks is absolutely batshit crazy. For one thing, gottaluvafriend would never have spoken a kind word to B.O. and would never dealt with his harassment with anything but venomous insults (he hated me just as much, which nxnwrocks did not) and would never have backed down. For another thing, I followed gottaluvafriend after he self deleted and found him posting on two other film sites. He had radical political and religious views that were absolutely inconsistent with anything nxnwrocks ever said. B.O. and Sally are sick people. I do not know all that, llanwydd, but I do agree with you that there is absolutely no comparison between Goottoluv and Nxnwrocks. The former was a malicious poster whereas I never saw later to be so. As a matter of fact nxnwrocks has a very decent political approach and no extremism about him. Nor the capability of throwing so much insult. He simply has a different personality altogether.
As an aside, I couldn't help remembering a post about you on F&D board made in your absence which seemed to have put you together in company of people who you may not even get along with. Of course that post was false (and no one took that seriously) but how baseless given your views here?  |
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Post by lordquesterjones on Oct 29, 2018 9:23:57 GMT
Messenger or email, it's always me who has to start the conversation. Just once I'd like someone to say a quick "hi, how are you?" but nothing. I also wrote letters to two friends and didn't even get an acknowledgment. Am I really the nonentity that the Say Something Nice thread suggests I am? You have friends?
Lucky you; I wish I did!
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