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Post by Feologild Oakes on Jul 18, 2020 0:08:22 GMT
So how old where you when you moved out of your parents house?
I was 20
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Post by petrolino on Jul 18, 2020 0:56:57 GMT
I got kicked out when I was 17 which was probably deserved, but I've been in and out since (I accumulated massive debt in my 20s which fortunately I've almost entirely paid off now I'm older and more responsible - I was that guy that would literally buy everybody in a bar / pub a drink). I didn't talk to my parents for about 6 or 7 years, so glad was able to sort things out, now they are always there for me, as I will try to be for them (both are old now and in 70s with underlying health conditions).
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Post by Doghouse6 on Jul 18, 2020 1:47:56 GMT
I should perhaps be ashamed to say so, but I was 22. And even then, I didn't get my own place until they put the house up for sale to relocate. I'd been working full-time for four years by then, had complete freedom, and the house had become just a place to shower, change clothes and, occasionally, sleep. And grab a home-cooked meal from time to time. If they'd asked for rent, I'd have gladly paid, but they never did, and I knew a good thing when I had it. Both my brothers were gone by then, and my parents seemed to appreciate not being empty-nesters, knowing at least one of their progeny could be counted upon to turn up with some regularity and would serve as a built-in "house sitter" to hold down the fort when they began traveling after retirement.
I will add with some pride that, once on my own, I never asked for nor received any kind of help from them during the decades they had left to live, as both my brothers did on multiple occasions to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars as well as other forms of assistance. Not that they wouldn't freely have given it, but "on my own" meant just that to me, and I remained determined thereafter to make my own way and pull myself out of any difficulties. The family situation of my husband (with whom I've been sharing a home for thirty-two years) was quite similar, as was his attitude, and we've always managed to take care of ourselves without relying on anyone, no matter how dire the circumstances have sometimes gotten. And when needed, we've also been able to extend assistance of our own, financial and otherwise, to our siblings, and felt fortunate to be in a position to do so at the time.
I'll admit it's attractive during tough times to wistfully fantasize about having been born into wealthy families whose resources could ease every financial, legal, medical and practical crisis to come along, but it's probably just as well in the long run that neither of us was.
Aren't you glad you asked?
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Post by Sandman on Jul 18, 2020 1:48:49 GMT
So how old where you when you moved out of your parents house? I was 20 Moved out when I went in the service 19. When I got out of the service I moved back in just long enough to get a job and get my own place. Had great parents! Miss them.
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 18, 2020 2:43:56 GMT
20 . I went to a college near home for 2 years and then moved away to go to university.
After college I moved into my grandparent's home. They had passed. It was a quarter mile from my parents.
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Post by moonchild on Jul 18, 2020 4:49:51 GMT
I'm still there taking care of my mother
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Post by Doghouse6 on Jul 18, 2020 6:23:35 GMT
I'm still there taking care of my mother A tip o' the hat to you. That can be a heavy load. When mine was in the final months of cancer some years ago, she needed assistance with everything and Dad was having trouble coping, so I spent some weeks with them until she insisted on entering a nearby hospice care facility. She said weakly one day, "You sure are going to a lot of trouble to take care of me." I told her, "Oh, now, none of that, not after all the trouble you took taking care of us for all those years." It was the last time I ever saw her smile. I hope and trust yours does her share of smiling with you there.
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Post by Fox in the Snow on Jul 18, 2020 6:57:08 GMT
22, if I recall correctly
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Post by Aj_June on Jul 18, 2020 7:02:27 GMT
20.....But after Covid-19 my parents wanted me to live with them so I have temporarily started living with them after living 1000 of kms or more away from them for around last 1.5 decade. As soon as situation normalises I will return to living away.
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Post by sadsaak on Jul 18, 2020 7:36:39 GMT
16 I loved my parents and the whole family was always close, but we always kept our distance. Which might explain why we were so close
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Post by Raimo47 on Jul 18, 2020 10:52:31 GMT
19
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Post by TheOriginalPinky on Jul 18, 2020 14:26:52 GMT
18. But I don't understand why it's thought bad that children stay at home until they feel comfortable moving out.. of course, they would contribute to the household. Historically, kids stayed home until they married.
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Post by divtal on Jul 18, 2020 16:12:35 GMT
I was 22 when I actually took my own apartment. But, I had been at an out-of-state school for 4 years, and had only been "home" for summers and Christmas. I was in my parents' home for about 6 months after graduation, while I sought a job and an apartment.
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 18, 2020 17:06:24 GMT
I'm still there taking care of my mother A tip o' the hat to you. That can be a heavy load. When mine was in the final months of cancer some years ago, she needed assistance with everything and Dad was having trouble coping, so I spent some weeks with them until she insisted on entering a nearby hospice care facility. She said weakly one day, "You sure are going to a lot of trouble to take care of me." I told her, "Oh, now, none of that, not after all the trouble you took taking care of us for all those years." It was the last time I ever saw her smile. I hope and trust yours does her share of smiling with you there. Lovely! Brought tears to my eyes. I have a similar story too . Moonchild and you doghouse are to be commended. God bless you and yours
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 18, 2020 17:09:12 GMT
20.....But after Covid-19 my parents wanted me to live with them so I have temporarily started living with them after living 1000 of kms or more away from them for around last 1.5 decade. As soon as situation normalises I will return to living away. I'd live with my parents if I were in your position aj! There is a comfort right now to family. Do you work ? I have a feeling you are needed more emotionally to your parents than your income.
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Post by Aj_June on Jul 18, 2020 17:19:40 GMT
20.....But after Covid-19 my parents wanted me to live with them so I have temporarily started living with them after living 1000 of kms or more away from them for around last 1.5 decade. As soon as situation normalises I will return to living away. I'd live with my parents if I were in your position aj! There is a comfort right now to family. Do you work ? I have a feeling you are needed more emotionally to your parents than your income. Yes, Enigma. I am doing work from home so as long as my office does not resume at physical location and we are allowed WFH I am going to stay with my parents. Yeah, you are correct. This is a time more than any other time when we need more emotional support.
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Post by divtal on Jul 18, 2020 20:48:03 GMT
Enigma, Moonchild, Aj
You're doing Angel's work, out of love and respect. That's to be revered.
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Post by dirtypillows on Jul 18, 2020 20:55:47 GMT
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Post by Sandman on Jul 18, 2020 21:10:00 GMT
Feologild Oakes, petrolino, enigma72, moonchild, Doghouse6, Fox in the Snow, Aj_June, sadsaak, divtalThis still brings tears to my eyes when I think of it. I went to visit my mother in the hospital when she was very sick. In my heart I knew this would probably be the last time I saw her alive. She was so weak she could hardly move at all. When she tried to talk I had to put my ear right next to her mouth and even then I could hardly hear her. WOW this is hard for me to type this but here goes. As I was leaving she reached out and grabbed my arm hard and pulled me close to her. She said plain as day I LOVE YOU. That was the last time I heard her voice. She passed away the next day. Where she got the strength and voice to say it so plain and loud I will never. I will never forget the last time I saw her and miss her so, so much.
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 18, 2020 21:38:37 GMT
Feologild Oakes, petrolino, enigma72, moonchild, Doghouse6, Fox in the Snow, Aj_June, sadsaak, divtalThis still brings tears to my eyes when I think of it. I went to visit my mother in the hospital when she was very sick. In my heart I knew this would probably be the last time I saw her alive. She was so weak she could hardly move at all. When she tried to talk I had to put my ear right next to her mouth and even then I could hardly hear her. WOW this is hard for me to type this but here goes. As I was leaving she reached out and grabbed my arm hard and pulled me close to her. She said plain as day I LOVE YOU. That was the last time I heard her voice. She passed away the next day. Where she got the strength and voice to say it so plain and loud I will never. I will never forget the last time I saw her and miss her so, so much. That is such a loving story hunter. It brought tears to my eyes. What a touching memory.
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