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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2021 20:08:52 GMT
Are there different levels of cheating?
For example. If a married man or woman has a one night stand with a woman or man at a bar or a club. Then never sees her/him again.
Is that the same as a man or woman who has a long term affair over a few months or even a year?
Would that make a difference to you?
Or what if you’re just dating? You’re not married or even living together.
Then one of them just has a one night stand?
What is the last straw? A kiss? Is a kiss enough to leave someone? Touching? Oral sex? Or a full sexual experience?
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Post by Nora on Oct 8, 2021 21:13:32 GMT
Are there different levels of cheating? For example. If a married man or woman has a one night stand with a woman or man at a bar or a club. Then never sees her/him again. Is that the same as a man or woman who has a long term affair over a few months or even a year? Would that make a difference to you? Or what if you’re just dating? You’re not married or even living together. Then one of them just has a one night stand? What is the last straw? A kiss? Is a kiss enough to leave someone? Touching? Oral sex? Or a full sexual experience? In a traditional (ie: not open etc) setting: 1.. relationship/ affair is worse than a one night stand 2. one night stand is worse than just touching or non penetrative contact 3. Just touching is worse than just a kiss 4. Just a kiss is worse than no physical contact ...but all of the above is cheating. as for what the last straw would be, it really depends on how good the relationship was till then, what went wrong and how much i care to fix it.
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Post by mystery on Oct 8, 2021 23:22:30 GMT
Yeah, those are all cheating. If a guy did that to me, it would be over. I think cheating is a sign of immaturity and selfishness, and it would prove that we're not a good match. A relationship should be based on mutual trust and respect, and if that's gone, then there's nothing worth saving anyway.
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Post by Ass_E9 on Oct 9, 2021 0:29:16 GMT
An affair in of itself is not cheating. An affair in which one participant is already attached to someone else would be cheating for that individual.
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Post by Admin on Oct 9, 2021 4:42:05 GMT
Are there different levels of cheating? For example. If a married man or woman has a one night stand with a woman or man at a bar or a club. Then never sees her/him again. Is that the same as a man or woman who has a long term affair over a few months or even a year? Would that make a difference to you? Or what if you’re just dating? You’re not married or even living together. Then one of them just has a one night stand? What is the last straw? A kiss? Is a kiss enough to leave someone? Touching? Oral sex? Or a full sexual experience? The intimacy of an affair cuts much deeper than the sex. A one night stand can be forgiven.
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Post by novastar6 on Oct 9, 2021 5:26:24 GMT
An affair in of itself is not cheating. An affair in which one participant is already attached to someone else would be cheating for that individual. An affair is cheating.
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Post by novastar6 on Oct 9, 2021 5:26:57 GMT
Cheating is cheating is cheating. Because once you find out about ONE, even 'just one time', you have to wonder what else they've been lying about, WHO else 'just one time' they've been lying about.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Oct 9, 2021 8:33:54 GMT
Its the same thing.
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Post by monicah on Oct 10, 2021 15:31:22 GMT
An affair is cheating. That detracts from the relationship.
But one night of sex is not cheating on a relationship, because one night of sex is not a relationship. And no, how silly to say one kiss is cheating. Such unrealistic foolishness.
A relationship is what it is. Sex alone outside of that relationship may be wrong, but to say you've cheated your partner out of something? Bullshit. You've over romanticized and idealized your relationship in a very unrealistic and selfish way. If you have a good and positive relationship with your partner, one sex act with someone else doesn't change that. Sex is just sex. And to try and parse it by the nature of the one sex act is possessive to the point of mental illness.
Existentially: Get over yourself. I love you ❤️
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2021 18:56:23 GMT
Varies relationship to relationship...no one size fits all answer. All non monogamy is not cheating obviously. Every relationship has some defined boundaries though... right? Lying and going outside agreed boundaries would be cheating...
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Post by Spitfire926f on Oct 11, 2021 2:44:09 GMT
An affair is cheating. That detracts from the relationship.
But one night of sex is not cheating on a relationship, because one night of sex is not a relationship. And no, how silly to say one kiss is cheating. Such unrealistic foolishness.
A relationship is what it is. Sex alone outside of that relationship may be wrong, but to say you've cheated your partner out of something? Bullshit. You've over romanticized and idealized your relationship in a very unrealistic and selfish way. If you have a good and positive relationship with your partner, one sex act with someone else doesn't change that. Sex is just sex. And to try and parse it by the nature of the one sex act is possessive to the point of mental illness.
Existentially: Get over yourself. FFS, gay or straight, cheating men all have the same line of bullshit.
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Post by Admin on Oct 11, 2021 3:09:14 GMT
An affair is cheating. That detracts from the relationship.
But one night of sex is not cheating on a relationship, because one night of sex is not a relationship. And no, how silly to say one kiss is cheating. Such unrealistic foolishness.
A relationship is what it is. Sex alone outside of that relationship may be wrong, but to say you've cheated your partner out of something? Bullshit. You've over romanticized and idealized your relationship in a very unrealistic and selfish way. If you have a good and positive relationship with your partner, one sex act with someone else doesn't change that. Sex is just sex. And to try and parse it by the nature of the one sex act is possessive to the point of mental illness.
Existentially: Get over yourself. FFS, gay or straight, cheating men all have the same line of bullshit.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2021 3:23:03 GMT
An affair is cheating. That detracts from the relationship.
But one night of sex is not cheating on a relationship, because one night of sex is not a relationship. And no, how silly to say one kiss is cheating. Such unrealistic foolishness.
A relationship is what it is. Sex alone outside of that relationship may be wrong, but to say you've cheated your partner out of something? Bullshit. You've over romanticized and idealized your relationship in a very unrealistic and selfish way. If you have a good and positive relationship with your partner, one sex act with someone else doesn't change that. Sex is just sex. And to try and parse it by the nature of the one sex act is possessive to the point of mental illness.
Existentially: Get over yourself. FFS, gay or straight, cheating men all have the same line of bullshit. Lol what makes you think gameboy would agree to be in a monogamous relationship in the first place... he seems to have a strong stance but that stance is only unethical if he doesnt tell people, he probably does
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Post by PreachCaleb on Oct 11, 2021 13:48:40 GMT
Are there different levels of cheating? For example. If a married man or woman has a one night stand with a woman or man at a bar or a club. Then never sees her/him again. Is that the same as a man or woman who has a long term affair over a few months or even a year? Would that make a difference to you? Or what if you’re just dating? You’re not married or even living together. Then one of them just has a one night stand? What is the last straw? A kiss? Is a kiss enough to leave someone? Touching? Oral sex? Or a full sexual experience? If you've made a monogamous commitment to someone, then yes, all of that is cheating. As to whether that makes a difference, it's up to each individual person to decide.
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Post by Spitfire926f on Oct 11, 2021 16:09:02 GMT
FFS, gay or straight, cheating men all have the same line of bullshit. The fact GB liked this post really says it all.
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Post by PreachCaleb on Oct 11, 2021 16:19:42 GMT
FFS, gay or straight, cheating men all have the same line of bullshit. I'm not saying having sex outside a committed relationship is a good thing. It's wrong. I just don't think it's "cheating" if it's just one night and not some ongoing romance. It's certainly not worth breaking up a relationship over. That's really up to the person who's been cheated on. If they can't trust someone to monogamous, how can they trust them to have been careful? I don't know what kind of diseases they might've picked up from the other person. I'd say that's a great reason to break up a relationship. Also, they can have multiple one-night stands with different people. That's another great reason to break up.
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Post by Spitfire926f on Oct 12, 2021 7:51:32 GMT
That's really up to the person who's been cheated on. If they can't trust someone to monogamous, how can they trust them to have been careful? I don't know what kind of diseases they might've picked up from the other person. I'd say that's a great reason to break up a relationship. Also, they can have multiple one-night stands with different people. That's another great reason to break up. No, you're placing much too much importance on sex.
This study shows 46% of men "cheat" on their partners. A 46% divorce race is not good especially when children might be involved..
Males are not monogamous by nature. If you're gonna force them to be sexually exclusive based on some 3000 year old book on morality which also condemned adulteresses to death, then you need some leeway for forgiveness and correction.
It's just not that big a deal.
I think some people of both sexes are not meant for monogamy. There are some people who are good at it though, men included.
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Post by PreachCaleb on Oct 12, 2021 13:08:17 GMT
Nope. I'm placing importance on health and safety.
It's a great rate if the marriage is full of lies, deceit, and mistrust.
Males are also sapient by nature. They can make choices and are aware of their consequences. Don't assume I'm using some book for my morality. I was discussing health and diseases. I don't follow old books for information on that.
That's up to the couple to decide on.
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Post by Stammerhead on Oct 12, 2021 13:30:03 GMT
Nope. I'm placing importance on health and safety. It's a great rate if the marriage is full of lies, deceit, and mistrust. Males are also sapient by nature. They can make choices and are aware of their consequences. Don't assume I'm using some book for my morality. I was discussing health and diseases. I don't follow old books for information on that. That's up to the couple to decide on. I also suspect that more often than not the cheater doesn't get divorced but might have to sleep on the couch for some time.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Oct 12, 2021 13:39:21 GMT
Women cheat just as much as men, but yeah lets act like only men cheats.
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