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Post by mystery on Oct 29, 2021 13:51:20 GMT
I don't understand why it's so hard for people these days to fathom that we all have *both* masculine and feminine sides. I think very few people are 100% completely macho man, or dainty girly girl. If they are, then they're probably pretty boring and not very well rounded individuals. I think it's good to explore both so we better understand ourselves, and humanity as a whole. For the life of me, I can't understand why people are so fascinated with the boxes and labels they create for themselves. Boxes only serve to constrain us. You can be a girl and be good a mechanics. You can be a guy and enjoy ballet. Who cares.
My wife is a mechanic. She is not girly, trans, queer, manly, on a spectrum, or anything else except herself. She doesn't sit around whining that men won't let her be equal ... she goes out and does her work very well because she's smart, educated, capable, personable, and has had rapid career advancements because she gets shit done right and doesn't need to fuck over other people to stand out.
I consider that to be true feminism, to believe that women can do anything, and stand toe to toe with men as our equals. Unfortunately, most feminism today is only concerned about abortion and playing the victimhood card, because they want perks and special treatment. I think that's pathetic, and as a woman I find that personally offensive.
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Post by Sarge on Oct 31, 2021 2:01:29 GMT
I suspect I've read more about gender in the last week than you've read in your life, judging by the (lack of) content in your posts. Yesterday I read an article by a self-described transgender woman who doesn't identify as man or woman. Her proof there are more than two genders are that not all men can grow bushy beards, not all men are taller than women, not all men are faster or stronger than women. That's the metric she used to decide she is not a woman. I assume because she is stronger or taller than some men (she plays rugby and doesn't have a beard) so she assumes she's not a woman. How sad is that. The woman needs counseling to accept herself. She's no different than girls who puke after meals to look like waif fashion models. This woman hates herself, and you are enabling and justifying that hate by reinforcing ideas about gender that are based in nonsense.
I suspect you haven't, at least not anything credible, judging by the quality of content in your posts. What you read sounds like an opinion piece article, not exactly a peer reviewed journal or accredited text book. It's like the flat earthers who think they know more about science because they watched a youtube video. Actual scientific articles go far more into detail.
Those are not mutually compatible. If it's biological, then that author is a man in his genes as well as mind and has no mental health issues because being a man is in his genes. Again, don't confuse gender and sex. They're not the same thing. People used to think homosexuality was a mental health issue. We learn and move on. We don't stubbornly try to slap mental health issues labels on people just because we don't understand them. It's pretentious.
We do understand them, they believe they are something other than their physical selves, and that is a mental illness. You are going in circles, you don't respond to the specifics of my posts, and don't post anything that relates to you, so I don't think you have anything genuine to say. I'm out.
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Post by Sarge on Oct 31, 2021 2:13:59 GMT
My wife is a mechanic. She is not girly, trans, queer, manly, on a spectrum, or anything else except herself. She doesn't sit around whining that men won't let her be equal ... she goes out and does her work very well because she's smart, educated, capable, personable, and has had rapid career advancements because she gets shit done right and doesn't need to fuck over other people to stand out.
I consider that to be true feminism, to believe that women can do anything, and stand toe to toe with men as our equals. Unfortunately, most feminism today is only concerned about abortion and playing the victimhood card, because they want perks and special treatment. I think that's pathetic, and as a woman I find that personally offensive.
It is true feminism. My wife doesn't wait for anyone to "let" her be equal, she just goes and makes her own spot at the table. If someone has to let you be equal, you aren't equal.
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 31, 2021 12:28:11 GMT
This documentary (which sadly got blocked from being seen in Canada) does give some answers:
A reason for this(in line with what Admin said), seems to be the traditional gender stereotypes we have in which people feel odd for preferring things usually associated with the opposite gender.
A girl who likes "traditional" boys sports is still a girl.
A boy who likes dolls and dresses is still a boy.
While situations like those examples might be atypical or abnormal (used as different from the norm or what is typical, not in a problematic meaning) they're not problematic.
Now as for the kid you counsel, the gender affirmative approach might have some terms while the medical world might have some others but I don't think there is a single specific word(s) to describe that whole definition that child had of herself.
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Post by PreachCaleb on Nov 1, 2021 13:11:52 GMT
I suspect you haven't, at least not anything credible, judging by the quality of content in your posts. What you read sounds like an opinion piece article, not exactly a peer reviewed journal or accredited text book. It's like the flat earthers who think they know more about science because they watched a youtube video. Actual scientific articles go far more into detail.
Those are not mutually compatible. If it's biological, then that author is a man in his genes as well as mind and has no mental health issues because being a man is in his genes. Again, don't confuse gender and sex. They're not the same thing. People used to think homosexuality was a mental health issue. We learn and move on. We don't stubbornly try to slap mental health issues labels on people just because we don't understand them. It's pretentious.
And yet, as you said, gender is not linked to genitals. So the fact they believe they're not their physical selves is irrelevant. So no, that's a mental illness. Which is exactly what people used to say about the gay community. But we moved on from antiquated definitions. No, I'm not.
Yes, I did.
I'm not transgender. So of course I'm not going to make it about me.
It's all as genuine as yours.
Fair well.
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