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Post by Nora on Jun 29, 2022 15:10:27 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help  Its a group of friends, not a family gathering. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? |
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Post by twothousandonemark on Jun 29, 2022 15:15:57 GMT
Pretty much my circle we all pay our own way, for meals.
Paying for drinks for the person of honour or whatever is still good to go.
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Post by Aj_June on Jul 2, 2022 18:57:45 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help  Its a group of friends, not a family gatherings. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? In India, it's always the birthday person who will pay for the meal for everyone. it's literally unheard of that the folks who are invited are supposed to pay.
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 2, 2022 19:00:29 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help Its a group of friends, not a family gatherings. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? Each person pays their own in California. That would be a big bill! |
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Post by Nora on Jul 2, 2022 22:59:47 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help Its a group of friends, not a family gatherings. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? In India, it's always the birthday person who will pay for the meal for everyone. it's literally unheard of that the folks who are invited are supposed to pay. yeah similar in Europe. |
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Post by Nora on Jul 2, 2022 23:00:28 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help Its a group of friends, not a family gatherings. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? Each person pays their own in California. That would be a big bill! interesting how its different everywhere. ok so i guess here in the US people pay for their own stuff.. |
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Post by moviebuffbrad on Jul 3, 2022 1:17:59 GMT
I always pay for the birthday person. It's their special day. Though that's usually been a 1 on 1 situation.
The tricky part is the 9 other people. The handful of times I've eaten in large groups, we split the bill. I think it's kind of a lame system since not everyone's dish is the same price, but people will act like you're a cheap prick if you say anything.
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Post by Johnny-Come-Lately on Jul 3, 2022 1:27:39 GMT
That is not your concern. I've never even heard of such a situation. We Poles, or any other Europeans, just hand an envelope with money in it.
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Post by Nora on Jul 3, 2022 1:50:14 GMT
I always pay for the birthday person. It's their special day. Though that's usually been a 1 on 1 situation. The tricky part is the 9 other people. The handful of times I've eaten in large groups, we split the bill. I think it's kind of a lame system since not everyone's dish is the same price, but people will act like you're a cheap prick if you say anything. exactly. Its SUCH a socially awkward situation. I wish everybody realized it and we as a society developed some kind of a handbook that everybodt would follow. I dont drink alcohol (or any sugary drinks) and dont eat meat. So I will usually have tap water and eat my veggies while people slam dunk their third cuba libre/ heinekens and order ribs . Everybody should watch THAT episode ok Friends at least . |
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Post by Nora on Jul 3, 2022 1:52:11 GMT
That is not your concern. I've never even heard of such a situation. We Poles, or any other Europeans, just hand an envelope with money in it. what? People hand out envelopes of money at bday dinners where you are from? Never heard of that. Might go to Poland for my next bday then  ) |
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Post by Johnny-Come-Lately on Jul 3, 2022 1:55:44 GMT
That is not your concern. I've never even heard of such a situation. We Poles, or any other Europeans, just hand an envelope with money in it. what? People hand out envelopes of money at bday dinners where you are from? Never heard of that. Might go to Poland for my next bday then  ) Yeah, attended a 40th birthday last Saturday and just gave an envelope of $100. Free booze and buffet of food. Not in Poland, but us Poles in Canada.
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Post by kls on Jul 3, 2022 2:40:40 GMT
I always pay for the birthday person. It's their special day. Though that's usually been a 1 on 1 situation. The tricky part is the 9 other people. The handful of times I've eaten in large groups, we split the bill. I think it's kind of a lame system since not everyone's dish is the same price, but people will act like you're a cheap prick if you say anything. Actually I feel people are cheap pricks if they don't pay their shares and stick someone who didn't order as much with part of their bill.
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Post by theauxphou on Jul 3, 2022 21:31:31 GMT
If I’m invited to a birthday get-together at a restaurant and it’s specified that meals are provided I reasonably assume I don’t have to pay.
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Post by Admin on Jul 3, 2022 21:34:49 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help Its a group of friends, not a family gathering. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? There are no right or wrong answers, but if the bday person has to pay for anything, you're doing it wrong. 
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Post by Nora on Jul 9, 2022 16:31:32 GMT
Even after 12 years of living here, I am still finding out about some surprise things that are different in Europe vs USA. What is the etiquette about paying the bill if a party of 10 goes out for dinner for someones bdays? Who pays? Whats the “usual”? Everybody pays for what they had? The bday person pays for all? The other people pay for the bday person? They all split it 10 ways? Any other options? Please help Its a group of friends, not a family gathering. Some know all the party guests some only the bday person. Going to a medium fancy Italian restaurant in NYC. What should I expect? There are no right or wrong answers, but if the bday person has to pay for anything, you're doing it wrong. yeah after all I didnt pay for anything, and everybody paid for their stuff, the restaurant didnt do split bills so it took a bit of time between ten people to work out how much each person owed but in the end it worked out fine. but it felt frong for me to accept thet will pay for my stuff as i grew up in the opposite as the norm . |
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Post by Penn Guinn on Jul 9, 2022 16:59:08 GMT
IF the birthday person is the HOST and the one who invited everyone to the party ... the host pays for all and just opens presents ! IF it's a party thrown by "the gang" .. the birthday celebrant eats free and the bill is split by who ate what dividing the Birthday person's meal among everyone. Presents still apply. leastwise, that's how me and my gang do it !  |
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 9, 2022 23:22:04 GMT
IF the birthday person is the HOST and the one who invited everyone to the party ... the host pays for all and just opens presents ! IF it's a party thrown by "the gang" .. the birthday celebrant eats free and the bill is split by who ate what dividing the Birthday person's meal among everyone. Presents still apply. leastwise, that's how me and my gang do it ! You are part of a gang ?? 😳 |
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