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Post by Nora on Oct 22, 2018 22:31:33 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely
"excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?"
the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?"
What do you respond?
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Post by politicidal on Oct 22, 2018 23:18:02 GMT
"Evidently there's no one else available so why not?"
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Post by Nora on Oct 22, 2018 23:18:35 GMT
"Evidently there's no one else available so why not?" funny. i will reveal what the guy said, i just want to see a few guesses first. I am not necessarily after what the funnies response could be just genuinely interested in what would guys say or what they think they would say in such situation.
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 22, 2018 23:31:40 GMT
"Evidently there's no one else available so why not?" funny. i will reveal what the guy said, i just want to see a few guesses first. I am not necessarily after what the funnies response could be just genuinely interested in what would guys say or what they think they would say in such situation. I would never approach a woman that way.
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Post by Nora on Oct 22, 2018 23:34:49 GMT
funny. i will reveal what the guy said, i just want to see a few guesses first. I am not necessarily after what the funnies response could be just genuinely interested in what would guys say or what they think they would say in such situation. I would never approach a woman that way. why not?
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 22, 2018 23:40:14 GMT
Approach a woman I don't know on the street and ask her out?
Just not my style.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2018 23:45:44 GMT
Approach a woman I don't know on the street and ask her out? Just not my style. Me neither. I'd LIKE to, but nothing says "Creeper" like going up to a stranger and telling them they're beautiful and/or you want to go out with them.
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 22, 2018 23:53:15 GMT
Approach a woman I don't know on the street and ask her out? Just not my style. Me neither. I'd LIKE to, but nothing says "Creeper" like going up to a stranger and telling them they're beautiful and/or you want to go out with them. One of my coworker actually screamed "STRANGER DANGER" the other day when a guy from another department approached her and told her some "creepy" stuff accordign to her. She knew he was another employee but they no contact whatsoever before.
She might have overreacted but that's not the situation you want to face.
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 22, 2018 23:54:58 GMT
The creepy factor is off the charts with that approach.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2018 23:55:44 GMT
Well if there was something that attracted me to her, I would be up front about it if possible. Say I saw her smile, and it exuded a confidence about her, then I would say: "I saw your smile and how you beamed as you walked down the street. It was pure impulse because I knew if did not take this very moment to ask, I would probably never have the chance to know what made you smile like that, and to see if we could continue that smile through dinner tonight."
Now it would be tough to do that if is was certain other things that attracted me, lol, but I was always a sucker for smiles and eyes.
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 0:05:04 GMT
Well if there was something that attracted me to her, I would be up front about it if possible. Say I saw her smile, and it exuded a confidence about her, then I would say: "I saw your smile and how you beamed as you walked down the street. It was pure impulse because I knew if did not take this very moment to ask, I would probably never have the chance to know what made you smile like that, and to see if we could continue that smile through dinner tonight." Now it would be tough to do that if is was certain other things that attracted me, lol, but I was always a sucker for smiles and eyes. i like that you would be genuine about what made you approach her.
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 0:09:29 GMT
The creepy factor is off the charts with that approach. why? This is something I never really understood. How is it really diff from approaching a stranger at a bar or a club or anywhere else for that matter? i only consider it creepy when A) the person is overtly sexual/vulgar B) they are resistant and keep pushing after you either dont even stop/respond or say no C) they approach you in clearly inappropriate situations like you are with a guy or a child etc. other than that i am all for people politely asking someone out. as a woman i dont do it but if i were a guy i think i would. especially if you are clean and decently/well dressed and polite, whats the harm in asking to meet someone? i have been approached on the street multiple time in my life and the only time i thought it was creepy was ABC above. oh I should add D to think of it, a guy approached me the other day introducing himself and then saying "i like white girls". Hehe. needles to say it didnt go further than that, but I thought it was extremely odd.
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 0:10:42 GMT
Approach a woman I don't know on the street and ask her out? Just not my style. Me neither. I'd LIKE to, but nothing says "Creeper" like going up to a stranger and telling them they're beautiful and/or you want to go out with them. i actually compliment people on the street all the time. men or women. if i like something about them i go and tell them. like i like your dress or hair color or smile or whatever i may like about them. i guess i may be one of the creepers then
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 23, 2018 0:19:09 GMT
Me neither. I'd LIKE to, but nothing says "Creeper" like going up to a stranger and telling them they're beautiful and/or you want to go out with them. i actually compliment people on the street all the time. men or women. if i like something about them i go and tell them. like i like your dress or hair color or smile or whatever i may like about them. i guess i may be one of the creepers then I'm guessing you don't come from NYC.
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 0:23:24 GMT
i actually compliment people on the street all the time. men or women. if i like something about them i go and tell them. like i like your dress or hair color or smile or whatever i may like about them. i guess i may be one of the creepers then I'm guessing you don't come from NYC. you are correct. but i actually feel like i learned it from the people of NYC. I never got complimented as much as I did after moving here… so it encouraged me to do it too...
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Post by Raimo47 on Oct 23, 2018 0:31:30 GMT
I never talk to strangers on the street.
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 23, 2018 0:31:42 GMT
Oh, guys in NYC will certainly do that
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 0:31:51 GMT
The problem here with your scenario is you walk up and ask someone straight out if you can go out with them. Nope. The way to approach a stranger you're interested in is strike up a totally benign, non-threatening conversation. Considering you're both out on the street and presumably have somewhere to get to, the odds of developing anything in this approach is remote. More chance where your audience is captive, like in a bar.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 0:32:30 GMT
Oh, guys in NYC will certainly do that NYC is one big ugly ball of stress.
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 23, 2018 0:34:54 GMT
Oh, guys in NYC will certainly do that NYC is one big ugly ball of stress. I know. I just returned from there.
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