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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 0:41:41 GMT
The problem here with your scenario is you walk up and ask someone straight out if you can go out with them. Nope. The way to approach a stranger you're interested in is strike up a totally benign, non-threatening conversation. Considering you're both out on the street and presumably have somewhere to get to, the odds of developing anything in this approach is remote. More chance where your audience is captive, like in a bar. i am not sure i quite get what you mean, but just to add on the odds, i think i have responded positively about at least 1/3 of the time someone politely approached me and asked me out on the streets. i think those are not the worst odds. i am in no way encouraging anyone to approach strangers on the street, i understand in todays climate it may be perceived quite wrong, just saying what my experience is.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 0:55:07 GMT
The problem here with your scenario is you walk up and ask someone straight out if you can go out with them. Nope. The way to approach a stranger you're interested in is strike up a totally benign, non-threatening conversation. Considering you're both out on the street and presumably have somewhere to get to, the odds of developing anything in this approach is remote. More chance where your audience is captive, like in a bar. I agree it is much easier in other scenarios like you mention. But the scenrio given isn't that. And in that scenario, the one who makes an attempt is going to be the only one who has a chance to succeed. He may strike out, but at least he got up to the plate.
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Post by Ass_E9 on Oct 23, 2018 1:06:03 GMT
"I don't want a good coupon to go to waste."
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Post by ck100 on Oct 23, 2018 1:57:56 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely "excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?" the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?" What do you respond? "Why would I not want to? Hell, how could I not want to?"
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Post by poelzig on Oct 23, 2018 2:23:34 GMT
I'm assuming the guy was drunk.
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Post by dirtypillows on Oct 23, 2018 2:50:33 GMT
Me neither. I'd LIKE to, but nothing says "Creeper" like going up to a stranger and telling them they're beautiful and/or you want to go out with them. One of my coworker actually screamed "STRANGER DANGER" the other day when a guy from another department approached her and told her some "creepy" stuff accordign to her. She knew he was another employee but they no contact whatsoever before.
She might have overreacted but that's not the situation you want to face.
She actually screamed STRANGER DANGER??? That is hilarious. I am surprised she didn't pull out a referee whistle. I don't know if your co-worker is high-maintenance or odd or just extremely prepared. Any which way, that made me laugh.
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Post by permutojoe on Oct 23, 2018 3:36:41 GMT
The problem here with your scenario is you walk up and ask someone straight out if you can go out with them. Nope. The way to approach a stranger you're interested in is strike up a totally benign, non-threatening conversation. Considering you're both out on the street and presumably have somewhere to get to, the odds of developing anything in this approach is remote. More chance where your audience is captive, like in a bar. Doesn't have to be remote. If you're a good conversationalist you can open with just about anything but yes asking them out up front is not the way to do it. That just makes you look like a dope.
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Post by ant-mac on Oct 23, 2018 3:50:30 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely "excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?" the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?" What do you respond? That scenario simply would not happen.
It's never been my style in the past and in the current social climate even more so.
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 23, 2018 4:37:08 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely "excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?" the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?" What do you respond? "Why would I not want to? Hell, how could I not want to?" A smart woman would know she was just the recipient of a 'line'.
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Post by Fox in the Snow on Oct 23, 2018 4:50:23 GMT
Break into song
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 6:08:16 GMT
I'm assuming the guy was drunk. well the question was - what would u reply in the outlined scenario, to the question asked?
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 6:11:32 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely "excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?" the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?" What do you respond? That scenario simply would not happen.
It's never been my style in the past and in the current social climate even more so.
yes, in the current climate I think its more risky/ daring than it used to be... Not a fan of that development though... So let me ask this - have u never even been tempted to ask someone out on the street? If yes, what stopped u? the feeling that it would be frowned upon?
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Oct 23, 2018 6:19:37 GMT
That scenario simply would not happen.
It's never been my style in the past and in the current social climate even more so.
yes, in the current climate I think its more risky/ daring than it used to be... Not a fan of that development though... So let me ask this - have u never even been tempered to ask someone out on the street? If yes, what stopped u? the feeling that it would be frowned upon? For me, no. Because I grew up in an Italian ghetto, and I know what women are capable of.
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Post by ant-mac on Oct 23, 2018 6:37:16 GMT
That scenario simply would not happen.
It's never been my style in the past and in the current social climate even more so.
yes, in the current climate I think its more risky/ daring than it used to be... Not a fan of that development though... So let me ask this - have u never even been tempered to ask someone out on the street? If yes, what stopped u? the feeling that it would be frowned upon? I've occasionally seen an eye-catching individual, who I personally thought was attractive or interesting in some way, but it has never occurred to me to approach them and ask them out.
It's simply not in my nature.
Besides, whilst I am not actually against the idea of yet another relationship, it's not something I'm actively pursuing at present.
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Post by mslo79 on Oct 23, 2018 8:21:22 GMT
NoraYeah, Option A is a obvious red flag as it's pretty damn obvious they only want one thing and there is a high probability they don't really care about you etc. those types of people are just best avoided by decent people as I am sure you already know. but your Option B/C, while not as bad, can go south pretty quickly and become awkward which will pretty much stop the conversation. but since you said it's happened to you before... has Option A happened to you much? ; like more than once etc? ; because I am surprised those kind of guys even bother because they surely must know that it's going to stop the conversation immediately with damn near every female they meet. Not necessarily as I think it's more how you come across towards others in whether it's a good thing or a bad thing. but assuming one is not awkward talking to people, which I am guessing your not, chances are your in the clear
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 8:49:39 GMT
yes, in the current climate I think its more risky/ daring than it used to be... Not a fan of that development though... So let me ask this - have u never even been tempered to ask someone out on the street? If yes, what stopped u? the feeling that it would be frowned upon? For me, no. Because I grew up in an Italian ghetto, and I know what women are capable of. u have my attention - now i must know - what are women from italian ghetto capable of??
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Post by Nora on Oct 23, 2018 9:03:28 GMT
NoraYeah, Option A is a obvious red flag as it's pretty damn obvious they only want one thing and there is a high probability they don't really care about you etc. those types of people are just best avoided by decent people as I am sure you already know. but your Option B/C, while not as bad, can go south pretty quickly and become awkward which will pretty much stop the conversation. but since you said it's happened to you before... has Option A happened to you much? ; like more than once etc? ; because I am surprised those kind of guys even bother because they surely must know that it's going to stop the conversation immediately with damn near every female they meet. Not necessarily as I think it's more how you come across towards others in whether it's a good thing or a bad thing. but assuming one is not awkward talking to people, which I am guessing your not, chances are your in the clear yes many more times than once. it probably happens once a week or maybe every two weeks. people screaming obscenities at me from across to street or making very dirty proposals/suggestions when waking by, usually related to my breasts. guys suggesting out right they want to have sex with me, openly. it may be about where i live though. it almost never used to happen in europe for example. i presume almost every woman has that experience. i also presume none of the guys actually think the woman will respond positively or take them up on their proposal, i believe they get their kicks from just telling you their obscene fantasy. I think ultimately they all react to the same impulse (those that approach u on the street, politely or obscenely) its just the ones that do it politely have a more efficient delivery
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 23, 2018 9:33:26 GMT
One of my coworker actually screamed "STRANGER DANGER" the other day when a guy from another department approached her and told her some "creepy" stuff accordign to her. She knew he was another employee but they no contact whatsoever before.
She might have overreacted but that's not the situation you want to face.
She actually screamed STRANGER DANGER??? That is hilarious. I am surprised she didn't pull out a referee whistle. I don't know if your co-worker is high-maintenance or odd or just extremely prepared. Any which way, that made me laugh. She really did.
As far as I know she doesn't seem high maintenance but she has a slightly atypical look, I got nothing against it in any way or form but she her look is similar to this ( data.whicdn.com/images/15029338/large.png) and she does tend to also have slightly atypical views (nothing deviant or illegal from what I heard) and again I don't see this as problematic in any way or form but overall she come off as a slightly unusual type of person.
One of the thing she said about that and other encounters she had, is that she feels if the guy put pressure she won't be able to do much, especially physically. She is 5'10"-11"/178-180cm (haven't asked her precisely) but on a frame that is at most, and really at most, 120lbs/54Kgs.
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Post by Terrapin Station on Oct 23, 2018 9:44:04 GMT
so imagine you see a girl walking down the street and decide to talk to her. you approach her and say politely "excuse me, sorry to bother you, i dont do this often, please hear me out: I would love to ask you out to dinner, could I take you out to dinner?" the girl looks at you and say "why, why do you want to take me out for dinner?" What do you respond? "Because I'm really attracted to you--not just the way you look, but the way you carry yourself and what I can glean of your personality from that, and I just want an opportunity for us to get to know something about each other. It may be our only chance. I may never be so lucky to run into you again . . . we could just do coffee or something like that, too." And the reason I would and have approached strangers that way is that I'd be sincere in the above. There might be something about them, not just their looks, but that, too, that I'm really drawn to, and it's true that if you don't say something you may never see them again. It might not work, and it usually doesnt. But it's guaranteed that you'll never see them again if you don't say anything. And sometimes it works.
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Post by Terrapin Station on Oct 23, 2018 9:45:12 GMT
The problem here with your scenario is you walk up and ask someone straight out if you can go out with them. Nope. The way to approach a stranger you're interested in is strike up a totally benign, non-threatening conversation. Considering you're both out on the street and presumably have somewhere to get to, the odds of developing anything in this approach is remote. More chance where your audience is captive, like in a bar. I do agree with that. I'd never ask them out right off the bat unless they're really pressed for time, well or if I am. And then I'm still not going to just ask them out usually, especially not to dinner. I'll just shoot for a way to talk to them further in the future at first. Something far more casual. But I was going with the scenario presented. What I'll do isn't really that far off from it. Because I really do run into women where I don't want that to be the only chance encounter I have with them in my life.
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